One last BIG word for a fairly simple idea.
Here's what it means...
If we are going to get along, we have to agree that what you contribute to the marriage is of equal value to what I contribute to the marriage.
For example...
If I make $100,000 a year and you change the diapers, we have to agree that your changing the diapers is worth $100,000 a year. If you begin to believe that changing the diapers is worth more than $100,000 a year, we are going to have problems.
It's all about balance...
And... how you value things.
When both of you feel valued by the other... when you feel like things are fair... Getting along will come naturally.